You were talking about breaking your own crap, which is still not good, but not in the same league as breaking someone elses stuff specifically to hurt them. Edit: just realized the sister is actually 18 and thats even more horrible because holy crap, an adult acting like this is horrifying and she needs some therapy and a reality check. OP is way better off out of there with family members who actually care about her and mom deserves every bit of flack shes getting from relatives now. Locking you out of your own room? The fact that you're 16 and the only one who is actually acting like an adult really shows the dynamic in your family. If they then come out of that with love in their hearts and apologies for all the terrible things they did, then I'd say give them a chance. If you are happy with staying with your uncle please do so for a while! You've done the right thing. And considering how much time their mommmy dearest has spent literally brainwashing them - they are too far gone at this point for any kind of therapy. I woke up looked to the side and saw liquid falling from my brother's bunk. What he did in response was not ok and made the situation worse. What a toxic household, especially your older sis. NTA whatsoever, I would also be scared of what they would do or try if they see or find out you're having a kid, considering how insanely vicious they see you and your mom, I think letting them in would only give them a way to come up with ideas or ways to damage or genuinely hurt you or your kid or spouse (I say this too because of how deeply ingrained they have of the belief that your mom caused their mom to die. Suddenly grandparents and relatives alike are pissed and entitled to see the blood of the other blood they didnt give 2 shits about. THEY made things worse because of the way they treated you in the first place. They aren't siblings, and they weren't given the space or time to form step-sibling bonds. NTA that girl sounds absolutely horrible and needs some therapy. It really isn't a problem and I am very grateful to my parents. I can relate this to my bicycle when I was young haha. If they had handled the fight between his kids properly this would not have been a problem. It seems like your extended family actually cares about your emotional well-being. Probably all the same shit that happened before she was there that the stepdad is in deep denial about. Apply for emancipation or petition the courts to have your Uncle declared your legal guardian. NTA. But I'd love to hear the stepsister's perception of this blended family and where her frustration primarily lies.). had to scroll back up to check the ages because i thought we were dealing with children here. If you're happy at your uncle's, please stay there forever. He should have been the one that receives punishment. Spell it out to him. This isn't a case of: "Favoritism" which there is, but it's also "Favoritism", "Manipulation", "Emotional abuse", Etc. You stick with your uncle love. She wants me out during the day as she uses the room as her art studio.

I read in a different comment that the sister is 18? Its not their fault and your Dad is trying to repair them. I love this movie. She married an insecure, immature man who clearly did not raise his children well - 20 & 18yos damaging each others property purposefully? NTA OP. I absolutely never understand these pathetic excuse for parents who allow their children to be bullied/abused/neglected by step-partners and stepchildren. I'd someone did this to my kid I would pack their stuff immediately. Your mom failed you in this situation by putting your needs behind her stepchildren. Forcing you to stay in a room with a miserable girl? Not allowing you to keep belongings of your father's due to his own insecurity is atrocious. Previous Previous post: AITA For Leaving My Boyfriend In Arizona After He Pretended To Push Me Over The Edge.

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They would have believed anything their mom said. Spoiler, but don't the kids in that movie accidentally drive their step mom so crazy that they and their dad end up dead? I hope you know that you did nothing to deserve all of this. NTA Now my mom's family are mad at her. Go and don't look back. They are toxic in your life. You deserve respect and a safe living space! Its so sad and so hurtful, but almost as predictable as the sunrise. Sending you a big virtual hug and lots of strength. Seriously, this is such a shitty move, and your mother should have prevented this from happening. Good riddance. Dont answer your mothers calls, just stick with the rest of the blood family. Mom also helped create this situation by sticking girls in a room when they are constantly in conflict. Not only do not all families have that kind of money, kids having their own room is a relatively new social construct (not sure if that's the right word here) I mean for much of human history in various cultures, the average family would all sleep in one room, and that was NOT considered 'poverty level' or anything like that. Glad you are with someone who cares about you. Your stepsister is a monster. These things are not cure-alls that work 100% of the time. She did nothing when her stepdaughter smashed her daughters gift to her dad. But, I firmly believe that some people just come into the world with something fundamentally broken in them and it causes them to act out against anyone and everyone. She should involve the courts to obtain that. You've been mistreated throughout. I obviously would prefer to have my own room(even if it meant fitting my desk there), however sharing a room and an office poses no real problems. It's about time your father acknowledges the truth that there will be no relationship with you and his kids. NTA. Further incidents may result in a ban. Your life will have less conflict. I mean, it had what it needed. andover santa parade 2022; profit maximization using total cost and total revenue curves; inside teddy pendergrass house; why isn't phil harding in the new time team Good luck! As a mom of two teens, I recently remarried and were navigating the whole stepdad thing with my new husband. I guess I saw a different "The Lodge". anyway, you call them by what they are, twisted monsters, and his father should've known, I mean he saw how they treated your mother, so it's not like you're lying about them being vindictive people, NTA and good for you for cut all contact with them. Hopefully he's in a position to support you until you're ready to be independent. . Incredible that the stepsiblings are spoiled and destroying peoples property. And when I said sorry it upsets you so much I was being genuine, it was not meant to be an AH move but fair enough then, while it brings me no pleasure I am certainly not sorry it upsets you so much. As for your mother, you can still love her from a distance while you take all the time you need to grieve and heal. NTA. Sounds like both parents failed spectacularly here. Having to choose between one family or another is intensely painful, but his kids keep forcing that choice. NTA.You're not wrong in that his kids are messed up, but that's because their mother poisoned them against you and your mother, and while they are adults, sometimes the way you are manipulated and twisted into thinking as a child isn't an easy thing to break, even with therapy. One thing I would like to bring up though is survivor benefits. NTA. NTA. I wouldnt trust either of them as far as I could thrown them around your child, they clearly hold an incredible amount of resentment towards your mom and you because of whatever their mom said to brainwash them before she died and I have no doubt that that resentment would transfer to your child just because they are yours. Honestly you did the right thing by moving out and you should stay out. My dad's parents (I would call them my grandparents but I don't think they ever really considered me part of the family and so eh) think I'm TA because it upset him that I would speak that way about his kids. F the step family, get mom back if she apologizes after going through therapy with just her. That chapter is now closed. Just go home and apologize. Even when standards of living improved, most people would laugh at the idea of a kid having his/her own room unless they were pretty wealthy. Stay with your uncle, he has your back while your mom has made her choice and unfortunately it's not you. Your comment has been removed because it violates rule 1: Be Civil. NTA-you spoke the truth and the truth hurts. Yeah, they were both in their 30s when they sent that link. NTA. You are simply mistaking a reference to the type of social media that one typically socializes with family and loved ones for a general reference to a mass social networking platform. The courts did nothing to help. NTA here your mother is for allowing this to go on so long. She is enabling Abuse and you need to make a stand. NTA - they are horrible people, why would you ever want such toxic nasty individuals around you or your children so they can continue their poison onto a 3rd generation? But clearly no one else in the house sees her as family. She doesn't deserve an abusive family. She constantly lets them step on you and infringe on your happiness, space and god knows what else. NTA. I'm sorry for your loss. Your mom is ta for clearly favoring her ADULT stepchildren. Nope, fuck Susie, I don't want to spend my life walking on eggshells because she is an asshole. Your gift was not just the end result but the love and thoughtfulness you put into it. Getting locked out of your own room is kinda nuts. Im just so very sorry. Misery loves company. Live your life, and do whatever is necessary to keep your little one safe. They still ended up with them. NTA - Your mom has done nothing to protect you from your step family's shenanigans. You're hurt, and your hurt > his hurt because you were a kid. Stay away as long as possible. If privacy is that huge of an issue just set up a curtain splitting the room in half or something. If your uncle agrees to let you live with him I would stay. Destruction of personal property is never warranted, they were both assholes for doing it to one another, and their father failed his duty by letting it happen. You didn't move out because of one incident, you moved out because it's a toxic environment that has proven to be increasingly hostile and violent towards you. She seemed to think I was dumb for even asking. EDIT: It was a play and when the movie was made, the actors kept their performances just like it was a play, per IMDB, That was a result of the subject matter, I believe. She did not raise them but one did try to drown my sister and bash her head into a boat propeller when we were little. Wow. She did nothing over and over again, letting her stepchildren beat you into the ground, and now her doing nothing has come back to roost.

Your uncle seems like a stand up guy for taking your side and giving you a place to live, though. Get emancipated, get your SSA checks, and dont look back! OP moving out will put a big dent in their family income if they don't scam her out of that money, OP's uncle needs to get those benefits put into an account for OP rather than used on her stepfamily. I want to give you a contrasting story. I'm willing to bet the answer is noting. It happens. Even with the bare base though, hard NTA. Oh, sweetie, you are definitely NTA. This is a very privileged look at the situation. What about families that have more than one kid and only 2 bedrooms? And not just because of all of this, but I can only imagine how difficult it is to lose a parent as a teenager. In the post titled "AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank?" the bride, 22, explained that she grew up in a family where the men like to tease and prank .

According to Carder Stout, a therapist based in California, parents often have the idea that without their help, their child would not be supported. NTA. NTA. Im the most disappointed in your mother. Hes 60. Stay far far away from them. Years ago. Nope, not one bit. They are clearly not emotionally stable. List all the crap step father and sister have done and all the things your mother neglected. Huge ones. NTA. OP seems to be the only sane person there. You deserve to be able to go into your own damn bedroom during the day. Lol, If a 16 year old can't be expected to exercise some common sense. I actually thought of the dress destroying scene when I read about the stepsister going upstairs and destroying the gift OP was going to leave at her fathers grave. I bet they're being constantly cuddled by the stepdad. Your moms family recognizes this and thats why they have your back and dont want to talk to her, so please dont put that blame on yourself because its not your fault. And sorry your mom is not taking care of you. they should have kicked HER out. One review I read said the movie treated them like sympathetic characters as well which if it did would be even more of a reason for them to identify with the kids. Like everything else in life, common sense is mostly learned. Dont talk to your mom or the steps again. I would've left too. . Holy crap I didn't take in the ages on the first read.